traffic was terrible,… I forgot,… I just didn’t have time. Inaction is the silent killer of relationships. It is easy to fall into a pattern of complacency and think that things will magically get better on their own. But the truth is, if you want your relationship to improve, you have to put in the work.
Couples therapy can be a valuable tool in helping you and your partner navigate through the challenges of your relationship. But it is not a quick fix or a cure-all. It requires effort, commitment, and a willingness to be vulnerable and honest with each other.
So, the next time you find yourself sitting on that couch, wondering if therapy can really help, remember these nine practices:
1. Accept the fact that therapy works. Your therapist is there to guide and support you. Trust in their expertise and let them help you.
2. Trust your therapist. Build a rapport with them and be open and honest about your feelings and experiences.
3. Be honest but never hurtful. Use therapy as a safe space to have those difficult conversations and speak your truth.
4. Commit to your significant other. Make a conscious decision to work on your relationship and ask your therapist for help and guidance.
5. Take personal responsibility. Acknowledge your own faults and failures and be open to learning and growing from them.
6. Practice acceptance. Accept your partner for who they are, flaws and all, and focus on creating a shared vision for the future.
7. Practice sobriety. Address any addictions or unhealthy behaviors that may be impacting your relationship.
8. Don’t disrespect. Avoid contempt, sarcasm, and criticism, as they can be detrimental to your relationship.
9. Avoid the trap of inaction. Take action and actively work towards your goals. Don’t let excuses or busyness get in the way of improving your relationship.
Couples therapy can be a transformative experience if you are willing to put in the effort. It may not always be easy, but the results can be truly life-changing. So, next time you find yourself saying “Why bother?” remember that the love you need goes deeper and lasts longer. And with the right mindset and practices, couples therapy can help you find that love.